What makes a relationship Ideal?
A good number of men regarded their relationship with cars, old friends, families, tool sheds, work mates or even objects like recliner chair and television remote as ideal.
To each, the things were simple and felt comfortable. Their relationship with the those objects and people was quite rewarding and needed less maintenance. Women on the other hand contemplated kitchen appliances, old friends, favorite clothes and shoes, neighbors, items in their lives they highly treasured, and the bond they created either with the items or with other people. They used words such as comforting, reliable and dependable to describe their relationship.
Then came my turn. The first thing that came to my mind was my dog. He doesn’t require much. Only food, love and shelter. In spite of how my day went or the mood i arrive home in, my dog greets me every evening in an authentic, enthusiastic and transparent fashion. It is very humbling to consider the way he is excited to see me. There is none that greets me such enthusiastically a night after another, with no regard of how long i have been away or how my day went. He doesn’t need much, yet he gives too much in return. I call it unconditional love.
How can we define Unconditional love?
This is the love you have for your spouse after romantic love is long gone. It is a transition from the holly-wood style love. Unconditional love is real love- you love your partner with no regard to their weaknesses. No one is perfect. By now, you are fully aware of your spouse’s flaws. You know that they sometimes make mistakes, but that’s normal. You love them still. Your love for your spouse is for their imperfections not in spite of them. That is real love.
In looking at your spouse’s faults, you acknowledge that you too do have them. You are neither perfect. You too do make some mistakes sometimes, which is also okay. That’s self acceptance. In overcoming the imperfections and other people’s faults, you expect unconditional love. What do we learn from this? Probably, we cannot lack a lesson. We so much clutter our lives with assumptions, emotions and tribulations that we magnify our problems, and ultimately let them rule our lives.
If you seriously need to save your marriage, you have to put the emotional clutter aside. Only then will unconditional, real love come through. There is nothing out of the ordinary to have flaws and faults. It is also quite natural to have your feelings and thoughts. But unconditional love, the love you have for your partner, will conquer them all.
It is quite possible not to approve the things that your spouse does but still love them. It is also possible to love your spouse but still have a distaste on your marriage life situation or how your life is. Your marriage and the love for your spouse can possibly remain constant. To re connect with your life’s purpose, you have to love unconditionally. The best time to do so is now. Avoid the mistakes that potentially jeopardize your beautiful marriage’s recovery!
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